Welcome To The Recovery Works
PRAYERS OF THE STEPS
(ADAPTED FROM THE BIG BOOK)
2ND STEP (page 59)
God, I'm standing at the turning point right now, Give me Your protection and care as I abandon myself to You and give up my old ways and my old ideas, just for today.
3RD STEP (page 83)
God, I offer myself to Thee--to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of They Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always!
4TH STEPS (page 67)
When I am Disturbed by the Symptoms (Conduct) of Others: God, help me to show this person the same tolerance, pity, and patience that I would cheerfuolly grant a sick friend. This is a sick person. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. They will be done.
WHEN I AM AFRAID (page 68)
God, remove my dear and direct my attention to what You would have me be.
WHEN I AM AWARE OF MY DEFECTS & AM SEEKING GOD'S HELP (page 69)
God, mold my ideals in this particular area of my life and help me to live up to them. What should I do in each specific matter. Guide me, God, and give me strength to do right.
5TH STEP (page 75)
God, I thank you from the bottom of myeat that I know you better. Help me become aware of anything I have omitted when discussing with inventory with another person. Help me to do what is necessary to walk as a free person at last.
6TH STEP (page 76)
God, help me to become willing to let go of all the things to which I still cling. Help me now to be ready to let You remove all of my defects so that Your will and purpose may take their place.
7TH STEP (page 76)
My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad, I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding.
8TH STEP (page 76)
God, help me to become willing to sweep away the debris of self-will and self-reliant living. Please hold my hand as I prepare to go to any lengths for victory over compulsive eating.
9TH STEP (page 76)
God, give me the strength and direction to do the right thing no matter what the consequences may be. Help me to consider others before I take any actions that would cause me to be sorry. Help me not to repeat such behavior. Show me the way of patience, tolerance, kindliness, and love, and help me live the spiritual life.
10TH STEP (page 84)
God, remove the selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear that has cropped up in my life rigtht now. Help me to discuss this with someone immediately and make amends quickly if I have harmed anyone. Help me to cease fighting anything and anyone. Show me where I may be helpful to someone else. Help me react sanley; not cocky or afraid. How can I best serve You--Your will (not mine) be done.
11TH STEP (page 87)
Big Book suggestions about Prayer and Meditations:
1)Make no requests, in prayer, for yourself only.
2)Never pray for your own selfish ends.
3)Select and memorize a few set prayers that emphasize the principles of the Steps.
4)Ask your priest, minister, or rabbi about helpful books and prayers that emphasize the principles of the Steps.
5)Be quick to see where religious people are right.
6)Make use of what religious people have to offer.
MORNING PRAYER (page 86)
God, direct my thinking today so that it be divorced of self-pity, dishonesty, self-will, self-seeking and fear. God, inspire my thinking, decisions and intuitions. Help me to relax and take it easy. Free me from doubt and indecision. Guide me through this day and show me my next step. God, give me what I need to take care of any problems. I ask all these things that I may be of maximum service to You and my fellow man.
God, I'm agitated and doubtful right now. Help me to stop and remember that I've made a decision to let You be my God. Give me the right thoughts and actions. God, save me from fear, anger, worry, self-pity or a foolish decision, that Your will, not mind, be done.
NIGHT PRAYER (page 86)
God, forgive where I have been resentful, sefish, dishonest, or afriad today. Help me not to keep anything to myself but to discuss it all openly with another person. Show me where I owe an apology and help me make it. Help me to be kind and loving to all people. Use me in the mainstream of life, God. Remove any worry, remorse or morbid (sick) reflection that I may be of usefulness to others.
(Prayer Before Eating With Other Compulsive Overeaters)
God, help me to make the right food choices so that I can concentrate upon the company of my friends. Help me to feel the presence of others even as I enjoy my food, and to always be able to separate the two, for one feeds my body, while the other, will feed my soul if I remain ever mindful.
STEP 1 OA 12 & 12 Traditions, p. 1-7, AA's 12 &
12 Traditions, p. 21-24, Big Book, p. xi-xxx, p.1-
STEP 2 OA 12 & 12 Traditions, p. 9-17, AA's 12 & 12
Traditions, p. 25-33, Big Book, p. 60-64, (to end of
"three pertinent ideas)
STEP 3 OA 12 & 12 Traditions, p. 19-27, AA's 12 & 12
Traditions, p. 19-27, Big Book, p. 60-64 (to end of
STEP 4 OA's 12 & 12 Tradtions, p. 29-44, AA's 12 & 12
Traditions, p.42-54, Big Book, p. 64-71
STEP 5 OA's 12 & 12 Traditions, p. 45.52, AA's 12 & 12
Traditions, p. 55-62, Big Book, p. 72-75
STEP 6 OA's 12 & 12 Traditions, p. 53-58, AA's 12 & 12
Traditions, p. 63-69, Big Book, p. 76 (1st
STEP 7 OA's 12 & 12 Traditions, p. 59-66, AA's 12
Tradtions, p. 70-76, Big Book, p. 76 (2nd
STEP 8 OA's 12 & 12 Traditions, p. 67-73, AA's 12 & 12
Traditions, p. 77-82, Big Book, p. 76-84; Ch 8
(To Wives); Ch 9 (The Family Afterward); Ch 10
STEP 9 OA's 12 & 12, pg. 76-81; AA 12 & 12, pg. 83-87
Big Book, pg 76-84, CH 8 (To Wives); Ch 9 (The
Family Afterward); Ch 10 (To Employees)
STEP 10 OA's 12 & 12, pg. 83-90; AA's 12 & 12, pg. 88-95;
Big Book, pg.84-85.
STEP 11 OA's 12 & 12, pg. 91-98; AA's 12 & 12, pg 96-105;
Big Book; pg. 85-88
STEP 12 OA's 12 & 12, pg. 99-108; AA's 12 & 12, pg 106-125;
Big Book, pg 89-103; Appendix II-Spiritual Experience
(pg. 569-570); Ch 11 (A Vision For You)
A C O M P R E H E N S I V E GUIDE
TO THE FIRST THREE STEPS
(Especially for the newcomer)
These reflections and meditatons are designed to acquaint the sponsoree with the First Three Steps toward recovery. There are no right or wrong answers.
In addition to these questions, sponsorees may be asked to commit specific tools (telephone, meeting, et cetera) to be used daily. This helps the newcomer get a firm grasp of the tools and their use. It also serves for long-term abstainers to keep the essence of the program before them. Regular and structured use of the tools helps us focus on the areas that can enhance our growth in the Program.
1. Write a history of your compulsive eating, beginning with the first time you can remember food related events. Discuss how much weight you've gained and lost, what medical attention you've sought for the problem, and your attempts at maintaining your weight losses.
2. Read STEP ONE in the 12 & 12. Discuss and reflect upon the effect food has had upon you over the years. Do you truly see yourself as a "compulsive overeater?"
3. Read STEP ONE in the 12 & 12. Discuss and reflect upon the following ideas found in STEP ONE. *the critical nature of our disease *the progressive nature of our disease *the need not to push someone until they are ready *If you are not ready, explain why.
4. Discuss and reflect upon the fatal nature of our disease as presented in the 12 & 12 (p. 24, paragraph 2). In your discussion, reflect on how, at the very least, the disease has diminished your life.
5. Read Ch 2 of the AA Big Book, "There Is A Solution." Discuss and reflect upon the ideas that your discipline, or lack of it, has played an important part in your life.
6. Read Ch. 3 in the AA Big Book, "More About Alcoholism". How does this relate to you?
7. Discuss the following ideas: a)The deception of others is nearly always rooted in the deception of ourselves. How does this relte to your eating history? b)What have you done in the past, due to compulsive eating, that reaffirms this idea?
8. REad STEP ONE in the 12 & 12. Discuss and reflect upon what the knowledge of STEP ONE can do for you. During your reading, underline and note words and passages that are meaningful to you. Why are they important?
9. Re-read STEP TWO in the 12 & 12. How is the taking of STEP ONE a necssity before taking STEP TWO?
10. Discuss and reflect upon the effectiveness of OA-HOW from your personal experience and from what you hve observed in others. Could what you have experienced emanated solely from you? If so, why had it not happened before?
11. Read Ch 4 in the AA Big Book. Discuss and reflect upon the concepts of Honesty, Open-mindedness, and willingness and how these are tools of growth in the OA/HOW Program.
12. Discuss and reflect pon the concept of insanity as it applies to us in OA/HOW.
13. Discuss and reflect upon how we use the substitution method of acception the presence of a Higher Power (p. 27, 12 & How have you looked for substitutes all your life? Are you still looking?
14. Discuss and reflect upon the following concepts available in STEP TWO. a) Belief means reliance, not defiance. b) Defiance is an outstanding charteristic of every compulsive overeater. (p. 31, 12 & 12). c) The hoop you have to jump through is a lot wider than you think. (p. 26, 12 & 12).
15. Re-read STEP TWO in the 12 & 12. Discuss and reflect upon your childhood exposure to any religious concept. On a two-column balance sheet, olist on one side your negative feelings, and on the other list, your positive feelings as they relate to your early religious experiences. What conclusion do you reach when you reflect on this balance sheet?
16. Read STEP THREE in the 12 & 12. Create another balance sheet. ON one side, list all the reasons you can for believing in God. On the other side, list all the reasons for disbelieving.
17. Re-read STEP THREE in the 12 & 12. Discuss and reflect upon the following quote: "Faith alone can avail us nothing>
18. Read Ch 5 in the AA Big Book. "How It Works". Write on dependence as you understand it in OA/HOW. How can dependence lead to greater independence?
19. Are you a "grateful compulsive overeater"? Why are you grateful?
20. Re-read STEP THREE in the 12 & 12. I am responsible for only one person's actions. Whose? Why?
21. Discuss and reflect upon the idea: "Abstinence is the most important thing in my life . . . without exception".
22. Discuss the idea of calliing a "H.A.L.T."when your life gets unmanageable (not allowing youself to become too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired).
23. Read Ch 11, in the AA Big Book, "A Vision For You". Discuss and reflect upon the idea: "The more you give, the more you shall receive."
24. OA/HOW teaches us a sense of dignity. How have I utilized my newfound dignity in relationship to myself, my family, and my friends?
25. In the OA/HOW program, what is the importance of giving service? What is the importance of meetings? How are they both part of my road to recovery?
26. In the OA/HOW program, what is the importance of the telephone? What is the importance of anonymity? How are both intertwined?
27. Discuss and reflect upon reading and writing as tools of recovery in the OA/HOW program. Why are these toold essential to my recovery?
28. Read pages 569-570 in the AA Big Book, "Spiritual Experiences". Discuss and reflect upon the following: "Spiritual growth is a daily commitment". How can I grow daily?
29. Re-read STEP THREE in the 12 & 12. Write on "Having taken STEP ONE and STEP TWO, the degree of our success in the OA/HOW program depeneds upon how far we take STEP THREE".
30. Re-read STEP ONE in the 12 & 12. Review your two balance sheets from reflections #15 and #16. Make a sincere commitment to your Higher Power to turn your will and your life over to His care.
The following may be done in conjuction with Question 30, or it may be delayed 24 hours before the Step-up ceremony. (The Step-Up ceremony is for those person who have taken the first 3 steps and are now going to become HOW Sponsors).
In the morning, read the article, "The Act of Surrendering". Write on the ideas: "Submission is not the same thing as surrender". Discuss the differences. Discuss and reflect upon your own personal surrender.
SUGGESTIONS FOR THOSE DAYS BETWEEN THE COMPLETION OF QUESTION 30 AND THE DAY OF THE "STEP-UP"
1. Continue to call in your food plan to your Sponsor on a daily basis and continue selected tools on a daily basis. Most long term abstainers continue daily contact with their sponsors.
2. Continue with, or start, a daily meditation program.
3. Write and/or discuss something from a daily reading.
4. Continue attending three meetings per week and continue to use all the tools. Continue on with Steps 4 through 12.